What is happiness? I ask myself that all the time, especially when I live through a moment of sadness and despair and I want to turn my back on the World.
If you look into the meaning, you will be described philosophical terms or a scientifically characteristic of what the human portrays as happiness, saying something along the lines; that our brains detect happiness from what we expect in life.
From what I have seen, if we do not get what we want in life it causes us to be unhappy. And normally when you have achieved what you want, time will pass and you get bored, comfortable, and dependent but generally, you are no longer happy or you believe you are not and either get depressed or look for happiness elsewhere.
What is the cause for this feeing if you have something you wanted?
When I was a little girl and growing up as a teenager I really thought I knew what I wanted in life. I’d spend the free times I had in my bedroom, daydreaming about the day I would be an adult, finding my prince charming and experiencing that fairytale love story that we all use to read or see in stories, I would be a singer or T.V Presenter or “realistically” have a brilliant job career, being my own boss with a great salary and lavish bonuses where I could enjoy luxury breaks by the sea with fruit cocktails and relaxing on my hammock, beautiful children that make me feel proud to be their mother, I would hope they grow with a great sense of freedom and respect towards me, with a lot of love as like many other children in this cruel world, I didn’t always feel it, but it isn’t something I can dwell on forever as whatever happens in the past is a lesson for the future, and then of course there is that amazing figure, feeling glam and being able to wear all those expensive clothes that you use to read in the “J-17 magazine” and there is the rest that comes with teenage dreams.
In the real world it can be achieved but with great difficulty. The amount of times we get knocked down and thrown into the deep end can sometimes seem endless. Like Alice falling down the rabbit whole or going through a labyrinth of your soul.
There is never going to be one exact solution as every person is an individual. So, can science tell us really what happiness is?
Is their only idea of a solution, a drug?
Any prescription “medicine” can most probably help towards your state of mind but it also numbs your feelings. When you are numbed out like that you don’t care about anyone, not even yourself. You are living inside a bubble and the people outside of your bubble are blurry and when they speak it is only muffle to you as you float along the streets not taking in the breeze going through the strands of your hair, the smell of fresh coffee from all the bars you pass down the road, or the humidity of all the pollution surrounding you.
You cast people out of your life, and doing this at times can be a better way to get rid of pain, and sometimes it works, other times it just brings back unclosed chapters in your story that you will have to eventually get back to.
As we grow up we will have moments that we have to make choices to give us the right step to happiness. We need obstacles to give us that choice, without them we would remain bored, uninspired or even bedbound.
We all have a story to tell, it won’t be so much like the one that was dreamt as a child, it will be more impacting. It will have twists to leave us gobsmacked, melancholic moments or sadness that will bring us back down from the high we felt not long before. But when you are down the feeling of getting happy again is as incredible as the first time it is just a lot harder to get to it. Like an obstacle course that gets harder the higher the level you are.
We will have moments to be proud and moments to share with everyone or moments to keep just for you.
This can all be taken in and kept in a happy way, but we have to search for that balance that leaves us content with what we have and what we get in the future. We have to appreciate what we have and live to contain it and only looking to improve. When it gets tough we have to lean on our surroundings for support and find the torch to keep as alight in our darkest hours.
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